I can't count how many times a chick friend has come to me and proclaimed, "I'M DONE WITH MEN! FROM NOW ON I'M A LESBIAN!"
Let me just say.... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
I am bisexual and have had multiple relationships with both men and women. Let me tell ya, when you give up men for women, you ARE NOT giving up bullshit. You are just trading in for a different brand of it.
I have found in my experience that men are not so great at covering their tracks. If they are going to fuck you over in some way you usually see it coming about a mile away. Most women however, either don't want to believe it and turn a blind eye OR somehow delude themselves into thinking they can change him.
Women on the other hand are USUALLY much better at lying, manipulating situations, and playing any given part for the target audience. When a woman fucks you over it is much like setting up an intricate design of dominoes. One piece at a time, over weeks, months, sometimes YEARS. You don't even see it coming till all of them come crashing down in a display impossible to ignore... Then months after you are still recalling all the little clues that meant NOTHING at the time.
Women tend to look more appealing to heartbroken females because men are so completely demonized in general. A lot of women get out of these relationships and instead of taking their part of the blame for why things went wrong it is a bunch of "He did... He didn't... He wouldn't... He would... I couldn't TAKE it ANYMORE". Where as men USUALLY take a much more "I don't want to talk about that bitch" approach.
I'm not saying that there aren't liars, cheaters, and assholes in the male community. I KNOW from experience that is not the case. I'm just tired of people buying into the hype that they are somehow worse or more prone to it than women. Like I said, there are some dickheads out there. Many of them were always that way and WILL ALWAYS be that way. They hurt people with no conscience whatsoever. However, some of them were trained to be that way.
"Who trains them?" You may be asking yourself at this point... Well, I'll give you a hint. They aren't taken to a training facility for douche bags at area 51 to be programed into the loathsome little cockroaches they are today.
Women. Yup. Women train some of these men in the ways of douche baggery. Let me tell you a story about a good friend of mine. For privacy's sake we shall call him "Dude". In high school dude was the sweetest, most kind, caring, respectful, hopeless romantic any girl could dream of. However, the girls were NOT dreaming of him then. He tirelessly pursued one girl after another, showering her with affection, compliments, and gifts... and was cheated on, taken advantage of, left for someone else, shunned, beaten by one girl, and ended up "just a friend" to several others... That shoulder to cry on... While all of them... ALL OF THEM... ran off to be with some fuckhead who treated them like shit....
This went on for years until Dude had a revelation. Girl's didn't want the sweet, loyal, romantic guy as they claimed. They wanted the drama that came from chasing after the dickheads who treated them like mobile sperm banks... So he started to do just that. Not only did he start getting LAID, he stopped getting HURT!
That is just one in a sea of a million of identical stories of how one great guy disappeared and a douche took his place.
And while we are talking a bit about romance... A lot of women complain an awful lot that their man doesn't romance them enough (if at all). I gotta tell you, I don't hear too many stories about women lighting some candles and spreading rose pettals over the bed for her man, drawing him a hot bubble bath for when he gets home, planning romantic little surprises, giving full body aroma therapy massages etc etc etc for their man these days... But I hear a lot of bitching because their man doesn't do it for them. Bit hypocritical isn't it? Ladies, you don't want your man to buy into that old way of thinking that a woman's place is cleaning in the kitchen, fucking in the bedroom, or popping out babies in the delivery room. So why should you get to buy into the old way of thinking that it is the man's job to instigate all of the romance in the relationship? Sometimes men like to be pampered too. How much do you think you would like to play princess charming if your prince didn't sometimes return the favor?
One more thing I want to touch on before I start to wind down on this tangent is abuse. I am sick and tired of people generalizing the role of the abuser to be the man's. There are plenty of women who beat their man PRIMARILY because they know they won't hit them back because they are a woman. This is no less disgusting than when a man beats a woman because he knows she is not physically strong enough to defend herself. They are also just as bad, just as often as men at mental and emotional abuse. Yelling, name calling, belittling, and controlling... Society doesn't often bat a lash at a female guilty of spousal abuse... It's wrong. Plain and simple. I firmly believe that if a woman hits a man like a man she should expect to be hit back like a man. If she doesn't want to get hit she should keep her fucking hands to herself.
Look, I'm not hating on women. The point of this blog was not to say that women are worse than men... but that they are JUST AS BAD as men... JUST AS OFTEN as men. There are lots of women who are legitimate victims of bad relationships... but there are just as many men!
At the end of the day I say treat them the way they behave. If they act like a dick/bitch. Treat em like one. Tell them to shut their holes and get the fuck out of your face. If they act like a froggy little scrapper. Treat em like one. Knock em the fuck out then kick them the fuck out. If they act like a ho, treat em like a ho. Hit it and quit it. You already hit it, it's time to quit it. Finally, if they act like your friend, your companion, your lover, your king/queen... TREAT THEM LIKE IT! Hold on to them, love them, shower them with all the affection and sweetness you have in you. Make sure to make them feel just as special as they make you feel every day... Don't take them for granted... Cause I think we ALL know JUST how RARE that is! DON'T FUCK IT UP!
*gets down from her soap box*
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